So my birthday was in late March. I’m a tad late for a birthday post, I know. Only two months behind. Whoops.*
I could have let it slide by and everything, but, you see, on my last birthday I was audacious enough to write a “9 before 29″ to do list and I feel I owe you (and myself) an update.
How did I do? Exceptionally poorly. I did manage to take a great holiday (#7) and do a (short) yoga retreat (#8) and I did work hard on my posture (#4) and not interrupting people (#10). I almost got to a french conversation meet-up (#1) but I made a scheduling error and missed it. The others I flat out didn’t do. So all in all, a little less than half of a very short list.
Thing is, I don’t care very much that I didn’t get through the list. The most interesting thing about this activity was seeing how much my priorities changed in a year. My list from last year was terribly ego-centric, now that I look back on it. Photoshopping and vlogging were not really creative interests – I wanted to do them to make my blog better, so you might like it more. And throwing “fabulous” parties? Come on.
I feel that my life is different now. I feel that I am different. I am more focused on a quieter life, but one that is joyful and fulfilling. I am more focused on me, but in a less ego-fuelled, more compassionate way. I feel that I am getting closer to my truth.
So this year, my list is different. I decided to make some resolutions again, but this time they are smaller and more achievable. The kind of things I can put in practice every single day. Little, daily goals and achievements to live my life by.
So here they are:
1) When given the choice between the lift and the stairs, always take the stairs.
2) Every day spend at least a little time outside and turn my face to the sun.
3) Choose foods that will nourish me.
4) Love like I mean it.
5) Make a daily gratitude list. Even if it’s only one thing.
(If there is one thing I’ve learnt from Brene Brown, it’s that gratitude is not an attitude – it is a practice. Joyful, grateful people train themselves to be so.)
6) Move in a way that makes me feel good. Which usually, for me, means yes to yoga and no to the gym.
7) Dress to feel good. When I feel good I am more confident, which means I’m not all up in my own head comparing and worrying and I can be more present.
8) Write when the mood strikes. Too often, I feel the urge to write but I push it to one side because I “have” to do some other work first. Then when I try to return to the idea later, it’s lost its spark. Better to jot it down in the moment, even if that moment is slightly inconvenient. My writing is more authentic that way.
9) Conscious breathing!
10) No more feeling guilty over small things. So I forgot to make a reservation at restaurant A and we ended up eating at the slightly less good restaurant B. Who cares!! Go with the flow more and stop feeling responsible all the time.
That’s my list for the last year of my 20s. I have a feeling it will be a lot more enduring than the last one.
Any resolutions you’d like to share?
* Travel and moving home again and the stupidly long time it takes to hook up the internet in this country are to blame for my long absence. Thank you all for your patience while I sorted my stuff out. I appreciate it more than you know xo